Relationships are the most challenging lessons on this planet yet the fastest way for growth and expansion because they act as mirrors to our unconscious programs and beliefs. Hence the opportunity for awareness. By taking the time for the evaluation of our relationships we are gaining insight into what is it that we need to work on ourselves.
It could be that we are a perfect match to a person because of one aspect but then, due to our mirror neurons, we end up absorbing more of their habits, mannerisms, language and even values. For that reason, it’s important to evaluate the impact they have on us.
There is so much that we can learn about ourselves by observing the people that we attract in our life.
So many people change relationships but keep repeating the same patterns over and over again. Don’t let that be you.
When we learn to see people as our teachers we become more self-conscious.
Especially with challenging people, if we don’t acknowledge the lesson they are revealing, that lesson will come back in another person but in a stronger way.
We have many filters from our limiting beliefs and programs that don’t help in acknowledging these patterns, making it not only harder to see those lessons but that put us in a victim consciousness mode blaming other people for being an exact match to our energy.
The only way to get around this issue is by taking full responsibility for the energy that we bring to the table and by changing it so that we can no longer be an energetic match to those people.
Look around you, how do the people you are surrounded with treat you?
- Are you the queen/king in your own home or the maid/valet?
- Do people treat you with kindness and respect? Or are your standards too low for that?
- Do you feel heard and seen or do you have to shout and keep repeating the same things?
- Do people use words to say they love you but their actions don’t match their words?
- Do people use you to get something and then let you down when you need them?
We need to pay attention to all of these details otherwise it will be just our 5% (conscious) fighting against the 95% (unconscious). And the 95% will win every time as that’s where the majority of our programs are stored.
Sometimes we have to let people go. Just as we declutter our spaces, there are times in our lives when we also have to declutter the people that are not serving our evolution and wellbeing.
By being more selective of the people we allow in our inner circle we are tending to our energy. It’s an act of self-love to surround ourselves with loving, kind, respectful and inspiring people.
- Is now a good time for an evaluation of the people you surround yourself with?
- Is now a good time to see what impact are they causing in your life and with that gain some awareness of your hidden programs and patterns?
- Is now a good time to value yourself a little more and tend to your worthiness?
Anyway, just for fun, we created a workbook where you can gather all your information in one single place. Well, you might need to keep a journal on hand to go deeper.
We thought of adding 2 journaling pages per person for that purpose but weren’t sure if that would make any difference because in that case, we would have to reduce the number of people that you can evaluate per book from 60 to 30.
On that note, when analysing the people in your life don’t stop in the present relationships as the past ones hold nuggets of gold too! How many patterns have been repeated in different people?
How many of your beliefs, triggers or inspirations came from those past relationships?
And, of course, when we talk relationships we are not referring only to romantic relationships. Every single person in our lives becomes a relationship, even if for some moments only. Pay attention to all of your interactions and see what is it that you’re learning from it.
If you use the relationships evaluation workbook that we’ve just created let us know your experience with it.
You can choose from 6 different covers. The interior is the same for all of them.
My Relationships Evaluation Emoji Hand Cover ASIN: 1078453241
My Relationships Evaluation Fire Water Cover ASIN: 107995564X
My Relationships Evaluation Hands Cover ASIN: 1079960783
My Relationships Evaluation Love Hearts Cover ASIN: 1079963731
My Relationships Evaluation Network Cover ASIN: 1079965157
My Relationships Evaluation People Cover ASIN: 1079965939
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